Originally Posted by cch
^^^ Well said. Anyone with half a brain should realize this. Saying your conditioned to be a certain way is nothing but a copout.
Which is why if I do have kids, I will never EVER treat them the way my old man treated me.
^^^ Well said. Anyone with half a brain should realize this. Saying your conditioned to be a certain way is nothing but a copout.
Which is why if I do have kids, I will never EVER treat them the way my old man treated me.
Can\t say that I personally care too much at this point...Not that it isn't something I'd like, just simply not something on my priority list right now.
Perhaps later and if i meet the right women, who knows...
( I used to think differently about that. My ex had a kid, so i have experience with the full time commitment a kid brings. My ex was pregnant, so I have had my fair portion of thinking related to that. The bottom line is simply its my choice.)
You dont know me *black chick head swinging*... but seriously, you don't. What wouldnt I know about living in the real world? Im existing in the real world every day, I earn money to support 3 people, pay all the bills, yada yada yada, there isnt much more to life. Its not my fault I do shit right and take care of myself, life is a lot easier when you fly straight and live honestly, I dont need to **** up my life to educate myself. No ones parents are perfect, my dads an idiot and I know it and I have no intention of raising my kids like he did, im very conscious of the changes Im making for the way I raise my kids and Im doing it.
I can see where your coming from, and you are proof that anyone with the right attitude can overcome almost anything.
But at the same time, theres no doubt that some people don't..... Almost every messed up kid I've ever seen came from a messed up Family.
I don't have any kids yet..... I would like to get a bit ahead before I get into that.
Everybody I know that has kids, even unplanned, say they would not change a thing.
It's not a cop out. It's called being aware of your tendencies. I know many who grew up being beaten and while they would like kids someday they are concerned that the temper of their parents have manifested in themselves and they'd end up doing the same to their kids.
At times I do to others some of the same things that was done to me by my mom. I know better and I do my best to prevent such things but sometimes I just don't and it comes out. I fear doing these things to my children so it's not a cop out and I stand by my statement that how we were conditioned to be as kids is a real concern and having kids should be carefully considered.
I lost 20 pounds...How? I drank bear piss and took up fencing. How the **** you think, son? I exercised.
hmmm....Ive got kids and its awesome!
Everyone should have kids when their ready.. obviously not everyone can, but i'm telling you they change you.
I look at my 2 oldest everyday and i'm happy so far neither one was like i was/am, now my youngest worries me
I love kids, definately want some of my own someday
maybe my wife was drunk but she hasen't brought it up again. I tried to start another dialogue with her, talked about EI and how it works after I looked it up. She wasen't into it.
maybe it was just a phase, maybe she will just get off the pill and not tell me. I love her.
[QUOTE=vakker;338936]maybe my wife was drunk but she hasen't brought it up again. I tried to start another dialogue with her, talked about EI and how it works after I looked it up. She wasen't into it.(QUOTE>
Perhaps she brought it up cuz she was drunk... but I doubt that she is not thinking bout it..
WHen the time starts with women wanting kids ( either time is running out, friends start popping them out or she just saw a cute kid in the mall.. )
YOU BETTER give it to her or be ready to deal with consequences..
KIDS AND WOMEN>> some women can really turn into psycos and suddenly nothing matters ( dont know your women tho)
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