Relationship

[monkey]

I;ve been in a fairly similar situation. The kid wasn't living with us, but we were engaged ( beats me). Even though the women was not talking to him on the same basis like yours.. he basically managed to win by putting tons of strain on the relationship.

Its a long and paifull story.. the main point being is that I don';t know how getting serious with a women who has children and a dad in the picture can ever work.

The kids will always give him an in to terrorize you... she will be torn in half.. feeling guilty towards you and him. You can't ask her to stop contac becuz of kids etcd..

I will never have a GF again that has children. To me, it complicates things a lot, epecially when the ex is involved.. and honestly, who wants to deal with all the children crap when they are not yours.. yes its doable, but why?


Move on dude, things will always remain stressfull with him in the picture.. your better off alone

[theboss]

move on bro...its hard at first, but didnt sound like it would or could get better for you

[BDH]

I know Im a month late on this one, but I dont browse the relationship section much... Aaron, we've known each other for awhile now and you did what you had to do...

My current gf is going through a divorce and has 3 boys... needless to say, its tough... she is under a tremendous amount of stress about money, house ownership, etc... not to mention raising 3 kids... the father gets them 2 weekends a month, so for 26 days, she is the one with 3 kids to raise...

Luckily for everyone, her and the ex are not on speaking terms, other than regarding the kids... I would NEVER have gotten involved if they were all chummy chummy... a lot of members here know the stupid shit Ive been through and have learned from, so I know that a situation like that is cancerous... no matter how much you love each other, outside factors change things for the worse...

She should have known better than to keep in contact with him, though... she is holding on for some reason... perhaps shes just a nice person and wants to be civil to her kids father... or, she feels the need to keep him tethered for a rainy day... either way, it was very disrespectful to you...

Most women(and men) in this situation need to realize that being divorced with kids makes you more or less off the market for most men/women... if you find one who is willing to jump into something with that much baggage, you should try your hardest to respect their needs as well, rather than the douchebag youre divorcing...

Best of luck buddy... youre a solid guy who will have no trouble finding a good one in time...