Update I am single me and POF girl broke up but trust me the girl was close to as hot as they come. I don't message anyone anymore I jsut keep my profile up and let the ladies write first. Girls tell me they get over 30 messages a day so how many even read them ur better off waiting for them to send pics and comment. I find lately that the girls with no pics are the best. They don't want everyone knowing they are on POF so they send u private messages attaching pics to only the guys they are really interested in. I only get about 1 message every 3 days and half are ugly but guess what the other half are great so I still think its the best thing going.