As for the money aspect, if you get paid back, and you stick around keep your accounts seperate. She obviously does not have the responsibility to manage hers. 2 years of not paying GST. They send MANY letters and phone calls about that. Trust me I run a business as well and had my accounts seized years ago for no payment (I wasn't making enough money to pay them).

As for her as a person. You might be more understanding than me, but I might be selfish or possessive, but if my wife ever cheated on me, or worse yet, planned a sexual escapade with coworker, she would be out of my life for good. I have always trusted women until they give me a reason not to. Once that happens I could never trust them again.

Sorry to hear you are getting stringed around so much, women can really mess with us. Gonna need years of therapy by the sounds of it to trust one fully again.

Not sure how old you are, but she sounds very immature, even for a 21 year old. I always found the young ones nices to look at, but as soon as they open their mouth it kills it for me.